And that’s our best case analysis of the situation. To be blunt, his story really sounds like a well worn story that a married guy uses to get laid outside his marriage. Visualize yourself in that future wife role — down the road with this gent — and then tell me how this same model for behavior works for you from that viewpoint.It plays on a prospective sexual companion’s sympathies and eliminates any sense of competition. It also portrays the guy as a hapless victim — rather than a calculating perpetrator. Then we need to ask you why you are attracted to a guy who acts like he is a victim? So how do you imagine he will be transformed into an upright, responsible, solid and reliable guy down the road, when it’s your turn to play the “wife” role in his drama? Talk to the countless women who wanted to believe in that fairy tale, too. How do you feel when the next “other woman” enters, stage left?
Getting into a relationship with married men We love helping people we like out of troubling situations.
Take some time to get really clear with yourself about who you are and what you want.
The most important relationship you’ll ever have in this world is the one you have with yourself.
The cycle of the love affair with a married man almost always ends in broken hearts, hurt, and wasted time.
Sure you have those once in a million times where the man actually leaves his wife for another, but for the most part, it is a script for adultery disaster.